Recommended Books

The Delaware Bullying Prevention Association strongly recommends the following books for informing and educating parents and teachers about bullying.

Bullying at School: What We Know and What We Can Do

by Dan Olweus

This book provides a detailed description of the problem of bullying, the development of the Olweus Bullying Prevention Program, and core components of the program. Originally published in 1993, this book has been published in 15 languages, and is a valuable resource for school staff and parents.

Quit It: A Teacher’s Guide to Teasing and Bullying for Use with Students in Grades K-3

by Merle Froschl, Barbara Sprung, Nancy Mullin-Rindler, Nan D. Stein, and Nancy Gropper

This guide, published in 1998, contains ten lessons focused on three sequential themes (creating rules, talking about teasing and bullying, and exploring courage). Class discussions, role-playing, creative writing activities, physical games and exercise, and connections to children’s literature give children a vocabulary and a framework that help them understand the distinction between teasing and bullying. We recommend one per teacher (grades K-3).

Queen Bees and Wannabes

by Rosalind Wiseman

This is a truly remarkable book, extremely well-organized, inspirational, and full of real, practical advice. Wiseman first details the different social roles girls play in adolescent ‘society’ – what she calls “Girl World” – such as the Queen Bee, the Banker, and the Target. Then she describes the different kinds of social dilemmas these roles can cause, and — most importantly — she tells readers (presumably parents) what to do about them.

No More Bullies: For Those Who Wound or Are Wounded

by Frank Peretti

If you’ve ever been there, you’ve never forgotten how it feels. It’s being undersized or oversized or less than beautiful. It’s knowing you are vulnerable and that someone is ready to take advantage of your weakness. It’s the fraternity you never wanted to join-the fellowship of the wounded spirit. And Frank Peretti is a member, too.
In this powerful book, Frank Peretti shares his deeply personal story of growing up different, and the persecution he suffered because of it. And from this reservoir of memories he urges:

– those being abused to speak up and seek help
– those in authority to take notice- and action
– the “strong” kids to stand up and protect the weak- not prey upon them
– all of us to stop thinking of abuse as “normal” or as “kids being kids”

This groundbreaking work shows how we all – bullies and victims alike – can find both healing and forgiveness from the anguish and torment associated with the growing epidemic of bullying.

Odd Girl Speaks Out

by Rachel Simmons

Amazon.com Review:
There is little sugar but lots of spice in journalist Rachel Simmons’s brave and brilliant book that skewers the stereotype of girls as the kinder, gentler gender. Odd Girl Out begins with the premise that girls are socialized to be sweet with a double bind: they must value friendships, but they must not express the anger that might destroy them. Lacking cultural permission to acknowledge conflict, girls develop what Simmons calls “a hidden culture of silent and indirect aggression.”
The author, who visited 30 schools and talked to 300 girls, catalogues chilling and heartbreaking acts of aggression, including the silent treatment, note-passing, glaring, gossiping, ganging up, fashion police, and being nice in private/mean in public. She decodes the vocabulary of these sneak attacks, explaining, for example, three ways to parse the meaning of “I’m fat.”
Simmons is a gifted writer who is skilled at describing destructive patterns and prescribing clear-cut strategies for parents, teachers, and girls to resist them. “The heart of resistance is truth telling,” advises Simmons. She guides readers to nurture emotional honesty in girls and to discover a language for public discussions of bullying. She offers innovative ideas for changing the dynamics of the classroom, sample dialogues for talking to daughters, and exercises for girls and their friends to explore and resolve messy feelings and conflicts head-on.

The Anti-Bullying Handbook

by Keith Sullivan

This book is an invaluable resource that helps us to understand what bullying is and how to arrest it or prevent it from happening. It is written for parents, teachers, administrators, counselors, therapists, and teacher trainers and trainees. The first part of the book provides a clear overview of what we understand about bullying, based on up-to-date information from the world’s leading experts. The second part tells us how to go about solving the problem of bullying. This includes how to set up a preventative school-wide anti-bullying program, how to deal with bullying as it occurs, and how to monitor it so that it does not recur. The book also identifies and describes the best anti-bullying sites from the World Wide Web.